On a thread that’s gone viral on Reddit, women ages 40+ were asked what advice they would give to their younger counterparts. Here are the 8 nuggets of wisdom they shared and their thoughts on the subject matter.
#1. You’ll learn when something isn’t worth your energy. “It’s amazing how many things fix themselves. It’s even more amazing simply acknowledging that maybe it simply isn’t any of my business.”
#2. In your 20s, you’re still maturing and changing as a person. “There is a huge amount of personal growth throughout your 20s. Someday you’ll look back on your 20s and be like ‘OH HELLLL NO’”
#3. Don’t worry about aging. “Life is a process, and youth isn’t the be-all and end-all of a woman’s existence.”
#4. Things probably won’t go the way you expected them to. “We all have a great plan, then stuff happens.”
#5. Don’t give yourself a deadline for major milestones. “I used to think that if I did not have kids or find ‘the one’ it would mean that I failed. But that is not the case. It is perfectly fine to be single at 30, and still figuring things out. Being single does not mean that I am not worth it.”
#6. Relationships don’t stay the same for very long. “Relationships never ever stop changing, nor do people.”
#7. You might start caring less about certain things as you get older — and that’s okay. “Many women in their 30s, myself included, start to feel more confident and happy with life. And a lot develop a ‘!#&@ it, I don’t care’ attitude toward others’ opinions, or a ‘f!#&@ it, I can handle this’ attitude toward problems.”
#8. Never become completely dependent on one person for your financial wellbeing. Men come and go. Do not put your life in their hands financially long-term, get a job and make sure that at any given moment you can provide for yourself and possibly for a child. Because anything can happen. Divorce, stroke, car crash, cheating — anything.
Source: Huffington Post